On my quest to have the wedding that I would be satisfied with I have gone full speed on the wedding planning since the day after Ray proposed. I have been up late, borrowed wedding books, bought an awesome wedding planning binder, and am completely swimming in bridal magazines. I'm happy to say that Ray and I have already booked our reception and photographer. We are almost halfway done with dealing with the major stuff. Now we just need to book a church, find or make a wedding gown, and find a florist and then we can breath for a few more months.

Have you ever fallen down stairs before?....It's not fun.....

This has been a suck-ass week.

Have you ever fainted before? It's not very fun......

Valentine's Day

It was a good day.....

A reason for why people need to get cleared to procreate!

I just watched the news about two kids that disappeared last night and was later found at a mall. Apparently they had told their parents that they were going to the library, but ended up taking the light rail to the mall. The kids were found in different clothes and had been with a friend that they met up with who was caught shoplifting the day of their disappearance. The girl is 9 and the boy looks younger. What right-minded parent would let their child even go to the library by themselves, ESPECIALLY at that age! When interviewed the parents claimed that they don't normally let their kids go by themselves. So what made this time different? That's just a bunch of bullshit! I bet you the parents let them run loose like wild animals, but now that they're put on the spot they don't want to be seen as bad parents but it's too late! Just the fact that these kids lied to their parents and it was all premeditated really reflects on the parenting. These aren't teenagers. These are elementary-aged kids who would normally not be that devious until they get a bit older.

Therefore, I still stand my stance that all human beings who decide to be parents need to apply for a parental license, which includes a psychological test. Once they have been approved they are required to attend parenting classes before conceiving. But, of course, the way our gvt is that will never happen. So, us teachers and other folks will have to deal with the products of bad parenting and bad environments.

Biking and flea market

On Sunday Ray and I biked to the Berryessa Flea Market. We got a little too impulsive and had to seriously stop ourselves from spending otherwise we'd be strapping stuff to our backs! It was nice though being able to get out there in the nice weather and walk around with him, plus we got exercise! We got an apron, hair clips (for me, of course!), car seat covers (for Ray), sponges, mini bungee cords, and shoes (for Ray). Overall it was a good afternoon.

Racy wedding games

Saturday the 11th was Ray's friend, Steve's wedding. It was at Dynasty in San Jose. We were seated at one of the Jway tables with Ray's ex-Jway co-workers. The food was pretty good (peking duck, yum) and the company was good. Unfortunately there wasn't any dancing but there were some wedding games that we watched. Most of the weddings that I go to don't have games, usually dinner and dancing so I don't know what the games are suppose to be like, but they seemed rather racy! Note to self: No wedding games! There was one game where they tied a porcelain spoon to Steve and a little plate to Betty. Steve had to hit the plate with the spoon loud enough so ppl in the back can hear it. This basically meant that he was pretty much humping her standing up right in front of their parents! I could never do something like that! Another game was where Betty had to roll a ping pong ball up each pant leg, blindfolded, and have the balls go down the opposite leg. You know where that's leading too! I couldn't watch when she got to his crotch area! Another game was where they had parts of a chicken under bowls and whatever they each select they had to kiss that certain body part. So of course there was a chicken's breast and butt under there! Good thing Steve chose to kiss Betty slightly above her breast because I don't know how that would've went!

The price of comfort

Kick-ass dress: $180
Hair: $190
Shoes: $19
Makeup: $11

Looking way hotter than the ex: priceless

Having a loving and supportive boyfriend: even more priceless

~I love you Ray~

Lucas Scott is no longer stupid!!!!!

Justification

When you're in a relationship you tend to make excuses to try and justify your behavior or that other person's. Possibly to gloss over issues because you don't want to accept that they're much worse or are afraid of what might happen if you do deal with them. You justify to prove that you are right. I have realized that I spent a big part of my relationship with MG justifying everything that we did and ignoring all the issues (usually the same ones) that kept popping up. My justification for why I always seemed annoyed with him? That I was a crabby bitch. The realization I had? His antagonizing behavior added to my bitchiness. My justification for why we always fought so much and so hard? This quote I read somewhere that said "A couple who fights doesn't mean they don't care and a couple who doesn't fight doesn't mean they care." I always clung to that justification until I realized it was not worth it. And now, reflecting on my relationship with my sweetie I realize that the quote I clung to for so long is now null and void. A couple who doesn't fight don't necessarily hate each other. We just love each other enough to pick our battles and to deal with the issues in a calmer matter.

Busy, busy, dizzy, dizzy

Saturday, Feb. 4, 2006:
The day started out with a trip to the hair salon to have my stylist, Mona, touch up my highlights and cut my hair. Then off to Maggie V's baby shower at Spin A Yarn restaurant in Fremont. Strange name but good food. The shower was outdoors in this little covered outdoor area. The trellis-like wall had ivy and lights, which would've looked very romantic at night. The shower was buffet style. I really liked the ravioli in alfredo sauce. Yum! Games were ok since I normally don't like baby shower games. Left around 2:30 and went home to veg a bit. Ray had spent the morning golfing with his cousins Erwin and Edgar. They got back around 3:30 and hung out 'til 5. We took a nap 'til 6ish, refreshed a bit and headed to Ray's co-worker, Hoa's, potluck shindig. People there were nice. Food was fine. Spent the last 1/2 hour on the phone with MH over certain dealings. Went home at 9 to wait for my sister, Marie, and Shirley so we can go clubbing. Met up with Johnny and Shirley's friend, Divij, at Studio 8. Johnny brought a friend, Cassandra. She's really nice and cute. A total Johnny-girl! We had a lot of fun dancing the night away. I had to rescue my sis and Shirley once from some nasty-ass guys, but all-in-all it was fun. Ly and Ray got a bit tipsy but I was driving so it was ok. Some concerns were raised about the amount my sister was drinking, but the way I see it, she's an adult, there isn't a whole lot I can do or say, but if I do feel there is a need to talk to her than I will.

Sunday, Feb. 5th:
A lot of errands and cleaning. I'm getting very domestic. I'm finally getting my finances back to normal after the whole fraud threat last week. It sucks not being able to access your $$ for a while. I am happy to see that I still have a decent amount in my account after I updated everything!

Go Eva!

Last night Ray and I went to see the Golden State Warriors play the San Antonio Spurs. The highlights were running into Charles and Michelle and several other Wilson staff folks (since we got the tix through Wilson) and Eva Longoria! She was at the game to watch her bf, Tony Parker, beat the Warriors. I have to say that although she wasn't glammed up as she is on TV she still looks pretty much the same. Oh yeah, the Warriors lost by a few points.

Lucas Scott is stupid!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love and understanding

A friend of mine has recently gone through a breakup due to differences in how they view relationships and their dynamics. For the past few months I've been trying to talk to her about how there needs to be compromise in a relationship from both parties and regardless of whether or not the other person understands the reasons, they should find some middle ground because they love that person.

I was watching an episode of "Friends" where they were all in Barbados for a paleontology convention. Chandler, Monica, Mike, and Phoebe were playing a ping pong game. Competitive Monica hurt her hand and almost had to forfeit but Chandler told her he would play for her. When she asked why he would do that he responded with this:

"I may not understand why you have to win so bad, but if it's important to you than it's important to me because I love you"

That, my friends, is the key to a good relationship. Because regardless of whether or not you understand why the other person feels that way, if it's important to them it needs to be important to you.

SAF ISO a SAM, SWM, etc for LTR

Is there a right way and a wrong way to put together a personals profile? This question came up when a friend and I went over their and another friend's personal profile. These profiles are like pre-first impressions and there is so much that's weighed when reading these profiles. So what is the right way to do a profile? Should you focus too much on just yourself or on who you're looking for? Should you straight out say you just want casual sex or something a little bit more? How much should you reveal? Should you mention your occupation or the fact that you smoke? Should you be an open book or stay completely closed?

Doing a whole lotta nothing

I haven't been updating my blog regularly and there isn't any real reason. I was pretty much just doing a whole lotta nothing.....

1/28/06:
Went to Ray's uncle's 70th birthday. We were suppose to get there around 11 but got distracted when the movie, "White Noise," came on. It was not what I expected so in a way it was a bit disappointing. Did a bit of home stuff afterwards, helped Eric (ray's cousin) box up some stuff to move, my sister joined us and we went home and hung out.

1/29/06:
Went to Jane Tsai's stamping party. I like stamping. It was ok, no Deborah Alcorn, but then again Jane's friend, who was the demonstrator, has only done it for a year so you have to give her the benefit of the doubt.

This week's highlights:

- almost became a victim of fraud & identity theft
- R & L broke up (for good, from what I hear)
- M & M had lunch (weird)
- found out that S & L never gave me my mail so I am one month behind my car payments and now have to pay a $13 late fee. God damn.....
- finally picked up my broken-ass metal cabinet that's been sitting outside Buskirk (Sorry S!)
- finally got rid of the fridge we had gotten for free on craigslist and then it turned out the orig. house owner left his fridge. Now if only we can sell those damn lights and mirrors......
- had fries with Marie