Happy Halloween! With Dogcula in tow we are celebrating our first Halloween in our home. We saw Spiderman, the Hulk, Dora the Explorer, a witch, a couple princesses, and a couple teeny boppers in their makeshift costumes!

Happy Birthday Jen.

The ADVANTAGES of being in a relationship

1. Having someone you can always rely on.
2. Being taken care of and in turn taking care of another as well as being loved.
3. Knowing that your search is finally over.

And......


4. Knowing that no matter how you’re feeling that day or how you look that day you will always be beautiful to someone.

The disadvantages of not being single

1. No more impromptu anythings because you need to get home to have dinner ready.
2. Being responsible for more than just yourself.
3. Not being invited to certain things because you’re not single and they just assume you don’t want to go because you’re not single.


And……


4. Watching as your single friends create new friends, which in turns pushes them farther from you.

The disadvantages of a break up

1. Unconciously wanting your friends to “choose” and to choose you.
2. Having to deal with their choices.
3. Being left out of events because no one bothered to ask how you feel. They just assume you wouldn’t feel comfortable.

And…….

4. Feeling somewhat alienated because you have now become the person everyone has to tiptoe around.

Excitement and Sadness

I'm really looking forward to my Vegas trip. And yet, I'm very sad (and a bit bitter or is it anger?) at the same time since not all of the important people in my life are going.

Count Dogcula

Last night was spent eating my mom's BBL's and carving pumpkins with some of my fav. people. Ray, Johnny, Shirley, and Hercules a.k.a. Count Dogcula. It's always nice spending time with them.

On another note I'm feeling sad for a close friend of mine's. This person's going through a lot pain right now from all different parts of their life. I just want them to know that I love them very much and I am here for them whenever they need me. Love you, r.

I was watching Dr. Phil and he gave a great quote that his dad used to tell him:

"You shouldn't worry so much about what people thought of you if you knew how seldom they did."


I think that is such a great quote that all people should take to heart. We are all guilty of being affected by what we perceive as how others think of us. It's only natural, but like the quote says, we should not put so much stress into those things. In the REAL world, people have better things to do and deal with in their lives than sit around and think about negative or even positive things about another person. That is something I have been working on in my own life for many years and I definitely feel like I've made huge strides in the past 5 years. I hope that one day I can live peacefully without any bit concern about what others are saying or thinking about me. Because as long as I know that I strive to have a good life and be a good person that is the only thing that should matter.

Another "check" on the list

After many days of stress and brain strain we have finally decided on a favor. You would think that it would be so simple, but with a budget and the desire to give something somewhat unique and creative it becomes a lot more difficult than imagined!

Pumpkin Mania

The kiddies went on their very first field trip to the Uesugi Farm Pumpkin Park in Morgan Hill. It was an amazing place! Well worth the $6. As the bus approached the park you are greeted by rows of marigolds with pumpkins scattered in between the flowers. Our tour consisted of a video on pumpkin growing, a train ride around the patch, a live look at the stages of growth, a storybook corn field maze, and a free pumpkin! It was so much fun. We didn't even get to everything there because the rest cost extra. Even though we weren't able to go on the hayride or do the other things it was a jam-packed morning! I was totally wasted!

Cake excitement

One of the highlights of wedding planning is the cake tasting! After 4 tastings at 4 bakeries we finally decided on A Piece of Cake Bakery in Santa Clara. When we went to the initial tasting with them we were totally blown away by their samples. Almost all the cakes weren't heavy and had just the right amount of everything. The only one we really didn't like was the one with choc. cake, and fudge/choc. filling. Way too much choc. for a wedding! We would have to serve everyone milk! After we discussed what we wanted and how we want the cake to look like they quoted us and we were shocked. It was really reasonably priced! For the quality and what we're asking we were very pleased. We decided to come back and try a filling we wanted but wasn't on the tasting. We paid a tasting cake fee and got a white cake with choco. mousse filling and a kahlua cake soak. It was very good. And what's even better is that we get to take the rest of the cake home! Yum!

Finished items:

1. reception
2. church
3. dress
4. cake
5. flowers
6. DJ
7. transportation

My cousin got married yesterday (yes, another wedding this month!!!). The singer at the ceremony was soooo good. His voice was like heaven. I was just as moved when we heard these singers at Ray's aunt's anniversary. The bridesmaid wore a cute dress, but it looked like the dresses were painted on them! They were sooo tight! One of the bridesmaid had to fix the bride's train and she was practically waddling! Lucky for the bride that her close friends or family are skinny! God forbid one of her bridesmaid was fat and had to wear that!

The restaurant was decorated very nicely in the themed color, orange. It was a typical chinese banquet with the 10-course seafood dinner. Dinner didn't go too well with my table not being served for the longest time. It had nothing to do with the fact that we were in the back and were table 30 out of 31 tables because the tables around us (even the kiddie table) got their first course. By the time my sister went over to the kiddie table to steal their first course some tables were already getting the second course! Even reminding them that we existed didn't seem to help. We did get the rest of our food after that but it was a bit frustrating. To add to the wonderful evening was the live entertainment. It was your usual fobby, vietnamese band. I think my ears are still ringing. And to think my dad wanted a band for my wedding! Hell no! Last night sealed the deal!

After "Desire" and "Fashion House" I REALLY need to stop watching KRON 4 shows because they are just way too consuming, even for me! I keep feeling conflicted with other shows. Thank God we have TIVO otherwise it would be an even bigger dilemma!

Taiko and favors

Last night Ray's friends, Chris and Deb, tied the note at Seascape Resort in Aptos. We were a bit nervous driving down there since it started raining but luckily the rain had stopped when we got there,especially since the ceremony was outdoors! Deb looked beautiful in this slinky, stain-looking dress with a low back, crisscrossed straps, and a purple underlay. Thank God the ceremony was short because we had to stand the whole time on grass in heels! The view was wonderful though with the ocean in the background. We then migrated indoors for the cocktail reception and dinner. They had paper cranes made from a shiny material put together to form the symbol for "love" in japanese. After about an hour cocktail reception we proceeded into the ballroom where the bridal party was welcomed by the SJ Taiko group, which Deb is a part of. Very original and amazing. The entire performance ended with Deb finishing up the set in her dress and veil!
We were seated with a few of Ray's former co-workers. They're really nice people and fun to talk to. The sparkling wine we had for the toast was delicious. It tasted like a muscat. We dined on steak w/mushroom sauce, veggies, and mashed taters. The cake was either choc. cake with raspberry filling or white cake w/ strawberry filling. The DJ was a bit much with his introduction of almost every song he played. We felt like we were listening to the Top 40 on the radio! Overall it was a gorgeous night. Deb did a great job with everything. I was truly impressed!