Overwhelmed mothers

I'm watching an Oprah episode and it's about overwhelmed mothers. Oprah has a guest on the show that lost a child due to being overwhelmed. Her husband wasn't able to take their 3 y/o to daycare so she said she would drop off their daughter. It was also the first day of school and she was a middle school teacher. It was 6 a.m. and too early to drop off at daycare so the mother stopped by the donut shop and went to the school to drop everything off. Her daughter had fallen asleep and with the rush of the first day of school she completely forgot about her daughter. It wasn't until the end of the day when her daughter was discovered. Unfortunately her daughter died of heat stroke.

Women today strive so hard to do it all. They don't feel accomplished if they can't say they're doing a million things and can multitask like a pro. If their calendar or planner isn't filled to the max it's like they're not doing enough. Moms were given the opportunity to call this hotline on Oprah and anonymously say how they feel overwhelmed. It's so sad hearing about all the frustrated moms feeling defeated as though their bad moms because their children aren't getting the sort of moms they deserve.

So what is a good mom? Is a good mom someone who stays at home full-time and is always there to tend to their child's every needs? Is a good mom someone who has a career outside of the home to provide for their child? Why is a mother/woman's worth measured by how many things are on their plate? Why is it so hard to say, "Stop! I need to take a break." It's always go, go, go. What's so frustrating that either situation (stay-at-home or career mom) doesn't seem perfect. So what are we to do?