What would you do? How would you feel?
So you go to dinner with your boyfriend and his female friend of 7 months from work. The first 5 minutes or so seem ok, but as the evening progresses you find yourself being shut out by his friend. To clarify, it feels like you're the third wheel watching two ppl on a date. The reason you feel this way is because this female work friend is talking about work-related subjects (which you have no expertise in whatsoever), they're leaning towards and making eye contact mainly with your boyfriend, and barely saying one word to you. Your boyfriend (guys can be seriously socially retarded) is not helping the situation by giving into the work-related talk and so you sit there hoping and praying for anything remotely NOT related to computer talk so you can join in and remind them that you exist!
So what would you do? How would you feel? Would you feel uncomfortable and angry at the same time? Is this just an overreaction? Does this friend appear to be uncaring and rude and possible socially retarded too? Should you bring it to your boyfriend's attention?
posted by dragonchica @ 4:05 PM
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2 Comments:
Hi,
Sometimes a polite joking way can put an end to this. I doubt she meant to do that. If she's an engineer also, she may just be anti-social and can't talk about anything besides work because maybe she doesn't know what else to talk about. (not all engineers are this way...but you know the stereotype).
That's where you come in. You can change the subject and if they still don't get it...make it a joke and say "hey, let's change the subject." And if that don't work...well ...they're dense.
:) heheh
well, i have a lot of enginerd friends and they're not the most socially capable people! so, i wouldn't hold it against them too much. that said, it is rude to make conversation that excludes someone. at the very least, ray should have made some remarks that would've drawn you into the conversation or you could have made some witty remark (you know the kind that comes off funny, but has sarcastic undertones). anyways, mention it to ray that it bothered you that you were left as a bystander during the dinner. don't make a big deal out of it ... unless it happens again. good luck with that!
ur cuz
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